While you should be honest and vocal about how society is hurting its members, you should also seriously seek the islands of good in this life. I dont know how much I understand your situation. You say that you like non-practical areas and thats whats keeping you from working. I could have lived with them indefinitely. What needs of yours are not getting met? I would suggest you find a therapist and keep in contact with them. All sessions are by appointment only. At this point in life you could very well be depressed, which would give you the sensation of confusion and being lost. To shun that is to shun everything in a sense. Or in other words, when all you find are lemons, make lemonade. Realize unemployment is not a reflection of you, rather it represents a point of change. Most importantly, you should always take time in unemployment as a point of life to heal and grow. You can change. A few weeks in, you will need to take some time off to heal for yourself. And you cannot escape the world without more pain. I think that you sense and feel the evil in the world more than many people. Also, you tend to get better incentives to go at the start of any problem. Been unemployed 6 months, but looking for a new job almost a year. When times are stressful, make sure you remind yourself that its all a part of getting where you want to be in life.

Dont worry about connecting the two questions here.

I went back to university in September 2004. You just have to start somewhere. The average duration of unemployment for workers ages 55 to 64 was 11 months as recently as Dont push in any one thing over 75%. Your problem is very simple, actually. You lack compelling, inspiring and overarching long-range goals and objectives, broken down into short-term, Im 34, depressed, employed (with very minimum salary) have no fun in life but still believe that life needs to go on. Many very basic examples exist of this defining of our nature to a job. You like astronomy? You gauge your worth every day not others.

If possible, start at the ground up at a new type of work: which you are more interested in doing than your primary skill base. Dont worry so much about not getting there. Theres an Asian saying that says Even dogs can recite poetry after 3 years of schooling. If everybody else can do it, why not you? Become a Patron and Join Awakening Dragon for More Teachings & Online Retreats. A survey has revealed that, here in the UK, one in three men and one in five women between the ages of 20 and 40 (40!) I was laid off 9/2020 due to the pandemic which I thought was my dream job finally. @longtresses yes youre correct, Im an Asian.

I am still unemployed and scared to apply for jobs. Reading all the responses here truly inspired and encouraged me again to see that there are still a lot of GOOD people here in this world, like you all here, who also care enough to craft such well-thought (some even long & very detailed!)

It isnt easy to find new work at the same rate of pay as the old job. Look up Porcupine Tree. responses to a loser like me.

Western culture merges the questions.

Its nice to know there are other weird people out there in the world, but are you considered weird? Knowing is not enough; we must apply.

Depression * Depression = misery. Maybe youll decide money does make a difference to you, or maybe youll decide you like it out there and you could sustain yourself in other ways. What is important for your own expression of your humanity? I will next walk you through looking at why you work.

Are your parents supporting you? If you are, that alone would give me the incentive to get a job, any job, just so I could stand on my own, have my own place, my own life. but Ive taken your advice as well as many others here, and will work on it,.slowly but sure. Fear only undercuts your nature.

This is one key to finding a balance between work and life. This is hurting you. Redefine your stories. When people work for reasons against their nature, they tended to be discontent. I am an electronic radiation shielding specialist, hair beautician. Still hoping for the best. Some would advise you to shut up and get on with your life.

This is perfectly functional in Asian society. its just a matter of perspective. Treat your 25-year-old as an adult who is part of the management of the house. Its easier just to label oneself as a Job and not worry about lifes trickier and often unanswerable questions in small talk. In the words of my father and his generation: Your question sounds similar to this one. Not trying to pry, just asking to get a better understanding of how you have been using your time.

There are many jobs out there where you could use your potential without having to lower yourself or your standards. Hi, @niki. Be happy and keep smiling honey, Unexpectedly this is a story, a whole story of the workers. The big mistake many people make is either over-react or under-react to over unemployment. how one has to work during times of midlife. Heres a guy who lives/has lived on zero dollars for 10 years. You are lucky your mother doesnt chuck you out on your arse.

Fuck them. Most people dont care about discussing it, they just simply said thats the way it is, and sometimes I am so jealous of their Ignorance is bliss attitude, whereas I kept thinking about all the injustices this Money System does almost every single day. Savor life in all its facets. There is nothing wrong with not wanting anything beyond your necessary means to live by, whether those means are monetary or material. Or, as @Seelix suggested, you could try to parlay your skills into a career. He/she can help you work through that and develop plans and mini-goals to keep you on track.

The unemployment rate for people over 55 is at a record high in the United States in the decade of 2010. Sometimes I plan on relaxing working on getting healthier and focusing on my mind body and soul. When is someone too old to work and too old to hire? Read all those comments that others cared enough to direct to you and best of luck.

This is not true. You may have very low level but pervasive depression aka dysthymia. Dont over-rely on others; you will quickly burn out friendships or family if you do. Were not Generation X; were not Generation Y. Were more like Generation WTF because we cant figure out what to do with ourselves. I dont presume you are a religious person, but for example churches employ music directors as do schools. Most people in our generation were told by our parents and college admission offices, Do what you love. However, they forgot to add that doing what we love will not necessarily put a roof over our heads. Sounds like a long road ahead of you, but I sincerely wish you the best of luck. The second someone substitutes a path of living to be a career path, often becomes the moment of birth creation of a cog in the uncaring machinery of a working society. Many angles exist to this topic. As a result, I spend quite a bit of time helping people in midlife crisis, figuring out ways to better find work, revamp their businesses, close a business down, or starting new businesses. What do you do? These individuals, to be happy, will work just enough to cover what they consider basic needs and then live appropriately for their survival. You say you dont like money but lets face it, you need it to live. They will understand. You can hate money all you want, too, but why? A poet refers to a lifestyle. Decide what you can sacrifice in order to achieve what you define as more important goals (creating your off-beat art or music or whatever). document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); document.getElementById( "ak_js_2" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Just came across this page on accident and part of me is glad I did, the other part is fearful of whats to come. Youre an adult. 18 Lessons Learned From Being Unemployed (1) Dont Let Unemployment Define You Realize unemployment is not a reflection of you, rather it represents a point of change.

But seriously. Connecting with spirit to reinforce your life.

Dont make a mistake to think this moment of life is as simple as going out to get a new job. And since I like mostly NON-practical fields such as philosophy, psychology, spirituality, even astronomy, Repeating another monkey-slapped-typed mundane job well done. No magic formula exists, rather you need to practice awareness and do your best to balance out the situation. It really helps my situation in an instantnow I know what to do especially Im also an unemployed of 49. Now she's quit school and has put her dreams on hold. While last names rarely shift much today (children arent labeled John Programmer) identifications to work still happen at the earliest ages: Oh, you want to be a Doctor when you grow up!. Pride isnt something you can live on. dont want to spend one day more with them. If you know your personality is incompatible with the world around you (I personally disagree, i know plenty of idealistic people who can make a living without having to act like greedy assholes, but if you think getting a salary for serving drinks or doing otherwise menial tasks that dont need any particular skill other than a functioning brain is only being concerned with making a profit suit yourself) then youre going to have to change something. A really short dude. You do realise that money is just a transferable stand-in for Ill do you a favour if you do me a favour, right? Its just not brought up or discussed. To work means working to your nature, to support your nature. So suck it up. . Not quite sure how to interpret your words but since you did take the time to write all this on a public website for all to see you must be looking for something unless it is just attention. If you havent sold a glass of lemonade in your life or daydreamed of running your own, say, trendy restaurant, why would you consider business? I know many people who are doing what they love now in their new work, because of the energy given to them from being laid off. A charmless face. I came up with this exercise for myself when I re-invented my life. We are always the latter; work is always an activity to support our lives. Ill volunteer to be the front that @Cruiser suggests. Do reach for help when you need it! or Ill probably go into a much worse condition. Understand part of the process is PATIENCE, to give yourself time to re-adjust to yourself. But yes many jobs do drain us more than what we get back from the job itself. The who are you question tends to get dropped as knowing our nature typically takes a lifetime in learning. 1. if I do still have Hope for the future? just sayin. Do you have advice for the next person with a similar problem? Using motion and personal insights to reinforce your life. It just takes determination is all. Yet work and life shouldnt be thought of as meaning the same thing. Once we understand our nature, in why we work, then it becomes much easier to find work, a job, which fits your lifestyle and needs. We will help you discover new ways to looking at work and jobs. Is there not room for other options? The more I listen to you talk (I want to say whine but I am trying to be kind) I come to the conclusion that you need counseling.

Best advice ive got, hold onto what you believe, live YOUR life, and never leave your principles in life, made short, just be you. Really? Not towards work, but towards what you want to be! Pace your sleep with morning meditation. In the first place, unless you hate your parents, too, whats wrong with living with them? Whenever you feel fear: then go exercise, then reach out to be in community or volunteer. @niki, Let me rephrase that. Nature? Maybe youd rather barter or only accept gifts or donations for your work. You know, I hate to say this so bluntly but you really sound like someone who always blames something/one else for their own problems. The idea that you must either do the thing you love most for a career or live in misery is a false dichotomy. You only see the world you make. Our privacy policy. Take the time to clean up, repair, or catch up on anything you were behind in life for other reasons. One of your comments really stood out I am a musician/songwriter/composer, but the thing is: I am a very idealistic kind of musician, and I dont like to lower myself down to just write a HIT song that is cheap, low in messages. 2. what do I have to do (or start from)??

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Self-described formerly ugly losers can be so many things: an acne-ridden, obese teenager. It was WONDERFUL. The actual path is living life. Michael Rotondo, the man evicted after months of wrangling with his parents, complied Friday with the ruling that a county supreme court justice handed down Should I consider myself weird? This section will only focus on the following aspect: How people define their nature to work itself. (A lot of their ages are unknown to me, so Im sorry to any younguns Ive inadvertently offended.) So if you want to live independently, you will have to compromise. Enough savings to cover modest bucket list items and modest Too skinny. Or a perfectly good- or normal-looking dude who, for whatever reason, just didnt fit in. So yes,.related with that question, I want to know if it is indeed very POSSIBLE for me to journey/expand into those new paths of interests, without going through the formal 4-years Degree/study way?how so? While the world needs philosophers, unless you have a Ph.D. and can teach in college, your thoughts in that field may not be appreciated. In general, in families that children are never asked about what they want to do when they grow up dont have a chance to declare or refine their distinctiveness. You are hurting because the world is hurting you. Not for you, not for me. The lesson being: be open to possibilities.

I thought Id answer your question to give you some insight from someone close to your age. I quit my job 9 months ago.

I was in a soul sucking job,

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